I don’t believe in astrology (but what’s your sign?)

What’s your opinion of astrology? Do you feel strongly about it one way or another?

Growing up, I knew nothing about astrology. I didn’t even know my own sun sign, let alone the intricacies of star chart interpretation. That changed when I went to college and was introduced to many new theories about the universe.

I met my three best friends during college. None of them are friends with each other, and all three women have vastly different personalities. One is studying for med school, one is a teacher at a Montessori school, and one has launched her career as an actor.

The common denominator in my friendships is that we’ve all developed a bond over astrology. The topic sprang up organically and independently with all three of my friends. I wonder why?

Personally, I don’t actually believe that my being born at 2:57 a.m. at a specific latitude and longitude is the determining factor in my personality. That seems as far-fetched as the religious beliefs I relinquished back in high school. How can I reconcile my confidence in evidence-based science with my fascination for horoscopes?

I think I figured it out.

When my friends and I started swapping screenshots from apps like Co-Star and The Pattern, it gave us a jumpstart into more personal conversations. It sparked deeper questions than the usual “how’s life?”

We found ourselves discussing our flaws and virtues, and comparing ways of seeing the world. Astrology is a portal to talk about stuff like how to heal from past wounds, how to be more emotionally mature, and how to open ourselves to love. Although I live far away from my friends, I still feel deeply connected to their lives.

My birth chart includes seven of the twelve signs. My friends’ charts are similar. They each contain a buffet of signs, which correspond to a variety of unique traits. So it’s safe to say we all possess a little of everything. Maybe that’s exactly the point.

I don’t think it’s an overstatement to say that astrology is a way to reveal the many dimensions of our personalities and help us accept our true selves. It offers a fresh way to appreciate our complexities and inner conflicts. (Similar to 16 Personalities, or Enneagram, or I’m sure countless other modalities of categorizing humans.)

My soon-to-be husband and I are both Tauruses, and I would be lying if I said that sharing a sign hasn’t impacted how I identify with him. We have great empathy for each other because we share similar strengths and weaknesses. I know our harmony is not an accident of being born two weeks apart on the calendar. But I still get a sense of satisfaction when I read that our sign compatibility is “the love connection of a lifetime.” ❤️

So although I don’t believe that my destiny is determined by celestial bodies, I do believe astrology is a harmless and even helpful illusion. I happily indulge in conversations about astrology because it’s a way to relate to my friends. Asking “what’s your sign?” is not shallow when it begins a dialogue that helps us understand each other better.

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